I recently came across a social media post by a brand new driver who recently received their class one license. To my amazement, I saw what appeared to be experienced driver commenting on his post, of which was very negative.
The new driver was looking for a job, and asking for help to find something. They had very specific criteria as to what they were looking for. I admire this person for setting out a criteria list. This shows that they value themselves and their family. On the other hand, the experienced driver was negative, and showed that they did not value themselves by criticizing a new fellow driver. To value another starts with valuing ourselves.
Here are some ways to value yourself:
- Stop comparing yourself to others
- Don’t settle for less
- Appreciate what you do have
- Foster healthy relationships
- Learn to say “No”
- Set boundaries
- Follow your heart
In a perfect world this would never happen. We all know we don’t live in a perfect world. Please remember, when we lash out at another person, it’s actually a reflection of what we feel inside about ourselves. This is usually from some unresolved learnt behaviour from our past. Helping to recognize this behaviour is the first step to helping yourself.
I would expect that experienced drivers in the trucking industry would want to be more helpful to the new people coming into this industry. Fortunately, I don’t believe that this experienced driver represents the majority of drivers.
Please remember that in any industry we all had to start somewhere. We decided we wanted to be a professional driver. We then got some training, and some of us did an internship with a driving coach. Then we went out into the world and found our way. Like any industry, when we first start out, we only know the basics. We are not nearly as skilled as the veterans. We do our best with the training we have, to stay safe, and do the job we were hired to do.
I know when I started driving, I had a few veteran mentors that really helped me and gave me a lot of advise. Everything from how to secure the load and roll up tarps properly, to what the best route was to take into a pick up or a drop off. Where to park my rig at night, and what to watch out for to stay safe on the road. There was also which companies were good to haul for, and which were not. This helped me throughout my career. I would like to think that all experienced, professional drivers out there would do the same.
There are a lot of little tricks of the trade that you don’t learn in school, that drivers use everyday and can make a huge difference to someone who doesn’t know. An example of that would be rolling up a tarp. A tarp, if rolled correctly can be loaded up on top of a load, rolled out and down over the load in about 3 steps. But if that tarp is rolled up incorrectly, the driver will be fighting with it to get it over the load. This can cause a lot of unnecessary frustration and stress. Most times you are on top of the load, which can be several meters above the ground. As you can well imagine, even with a safety harness, this can be very dangerous to say the least. No one wants someone to get hurt unnecessarily.
Learning something new is not always easy. Sometimes it comes easy to someone, and not so much to others. This is exactly why it’s important to understand this, and help your fellow drivers out on the road. We are all in this together and are much stronger as a team. So, be kind and help one another out, as you have been there once too.
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