Have you ever heard the saying “Attitude Is King“? It’s true. No matter what you do in life, if your attitude isn’t in check, you may very well miss opportunities that are right in front of you.

Attitude can be a positive means in the right context. In the wrong context, it can be something that can ruin your life. But, It’s not just a word. It’s something you have control over and affects us everyday in different circumstances. As humans, we typically tend to be driven to negative responses. Some more than others. You have heard of the saying “Negative Nelly”? There’s a reason why people say that. Take a moment and ask a co-worker their opinion about whether you respond positively or negatively to situations. It may be an eye opener for you.

If I said “I have to go to work today” vrs “I get to go to work today”. How does one over the other, change your thought process? They basically have the same meaning, or do they? They actually mean something very different. When we change one word from “Have” to “Get”, it totally changes the way we see something, and how others respond to it.

Let’s start with “Have”. When you say “I have to do something”, it implies that it is a chore to do it, and either you hate what you are doing, and/or you are being forced to do something you don’t like to do. When you say things like that, it manifests itself into the future as an emotion. Your emotion manifests itself into an action, and the action manifests itself into reality.

Now to the word “Get”. When you say “I get to do something”, it implies that it is something you may love to do, are not being forced to do, and that you are looking forward to it. You tend to not see this as work. Such as a hobby that you do outside of work. You see that as a fun thing because it’s something you are passionate about. See the difference?

Have you ever encountered someone that no matter what comes out of their mouth, it’s a negative comment? Someone who always finds fault in someone or something, and never has anything good to say? How do you respond to them? Do you just agree with them, or do you try and change the outcome by putting a positive spin on the conversation? This where attitude comes in, and remember, you have the choice on how you react.

Negative attitudes come from a multitude of circumstances such as, the environment you are working in, criticism and self pity, which come from your inner self. Pain and suffering internally, our belief systems, regret, anxious thoughts, unsatisfying life circumstances, and/or negative friends or family. Some people experience all the above. You and only you, have the power to change this into a positive attitude.

When you focus on a positive attitude, you are creating an altered reality for yourself. This creates hope, boosts confidence, you contribute to a positive impact on others, praise vrs criticism, you create a meaningful life, and you give the gift of love and happiness. It creates less stress and chronic pain for you, and allows you to give beyond yourself and contribute to the world as a whole.

Having a positive attitude takes a lot less energy than a negative one. What would you do with all that extra energy? Ask yourself right now, what is one thing you can do to improve your attitude towards yourself and others? This will have a ripple affect in everything you do, because positive attitudes are contagious.

Dana G. Smith, CC

Dana G Smith CC is a Certified Relationship Coach/Consultant and co-creator of The Mindful Trucker, helping companies and professional drivers with better Health, Safety, Wellness & Driver Solutions.